Every aspect of parenthood, from family planning to raising children, is filled with love, tears and laughter. I am honoured to walk beside you along this path.
Pregnancies are portrayed as empowering, beautiful moments. But let’s get raw a little bit here, shall we folks? My pregnancies sucked. If you were to ask me what my least favourite part of pregnancy is, I would have to say phantom smells. Yes, phantom smells. I could smell something horrible all the time, but there was nothing rotten around! Apparently my enhanced olfactory abilities were due to high hormone levels. Which is great, that’s how you bake a baby! But it wasn’t fun let me tell you… This probably perpetuated my ever-present feeling of nausea throughout pregnancy. And I’m not bashing pregnancy here folks. I know a lot of people who thrive in pregnancy and do great! I just felt so horrible for those 40 weeks and I know that I’m not the only one. I had a lot of food aversions as well so it was mostly unhealthy carbs and ginger cookies on my menu.
What the heck am I doing with this baby?
When it came to parenting, I didn’t know what to do. Where was the instruction manual?!? And who was there to talk to about all of this stuff? If only I would have had someone to confide in, the road would have been less bumpy. I still would’ve had to travel down the same path, but it would not have been so lonely. I didn’t know that breastfeeding my baby is not supposed to hurt. I had thrush twice, and the first case lasted over 3 months! There was no one in my social circle who could help me with this stuff. They wanted to help but they didn’t know how. No one knew much about breastfeeding and if they did, it wasn’t someone I was comfortable with asking! I did found my solace in La Leche League. Their monthly meetings gave me a way out of the house. To have a place to go to, to meet up with friends who share your laughs and your tears, was priceless.
Why did I choose doula work?
My pregnancies were shaky, but my births were amazing! The power of birthing a baby my way gave me such a feeling of empowerment! And that’s why I do what I do. I help you get that empowered feeling. It’s all about YOU and how you want to give birth. Together we will explore the different questions that come up from pregnancy to parenthood.
How did becoming a mother affect my relationship with my husband?
I struggled for years after birth to look at my body and see it in any sort of intimate way. To me, my body reflected motherhood: bags under the eyes, slightly crooked eyebrows and more weight around the waist. I was exhausted, with sore boobs. Not the type of mom you see on social media. Although not a direct side effect of breastfeeding, my libido crashed while I was nursing my babies. And I chose to naturally wean my children, so this problem lasted more than a few months. And honestly, our intimate relationship hasn’t been the same for years. Seven years at the last count. You’ll remember my less-than-fun pregnancies? After a while I guess I stopped seeing myself as a sexual partner. And now I keep avoiding the fact that I need to find solutions. It’s embarrassing right? Talking about this. But I figure that I can’t be the only one in a city of nearly 1 million people who is struggling with her relationship.
Where am I now?
Raising two children at once is a completely different ball game! Plus, my youngest has always been very curious and has mountains of energy. Becoming a parent while navigating my own life has been challenging, rewarding, frustrating, and one of the biggest lessons I’ve had in my life. And I am still learning!
Where am I heading?
I continue to maneuver my way through Life’s lessons while working with people and families who are looking for a better way. I have witnessed a lot in birth, pregnancy, and adjusting to parenthood. Our respective roads into parenting are as unique and individual as we are. I am grateful to guide each client to their own goals.